A client of mine is a self admitted workaholic. She works all the time, weekends and late nights. She struggles with allowing herself to do things that she really enjoys and yearns to do. She is in a trap, caught in a cycle of 'doing' versus 'being'. We are working shifting this.
I'm familiar with this habit too -- the endless cycle of wanting to achieve something in the hopes that 'it' will get me to the mountain top, the finish line or to joy. All of that thinking weaves perfectly with the 'dictator' mindset. This sounds a lot like: 'Get that done or else your failing," or "You'll be so proud when you finally finish that." REALLY?!?!? Are we only as good as what we do or have achieved? Nope!
This head space misses out on the process. The process is the trip, the discovery, the adventure, the learning, the curious and varied path. It matters how 'we get there' but when we are caught up in the drama of 'being productive' we can easily miss out on gifts in the process.
Keep in mind, I'm not saying, don't be ambitious or set your sights on big goals and wishes. Actually, I want you to fully go for what you really, really desire and hope for yourself. (And I want my client to bravely risk living her life untied to her work so she can lean into other aspirations. This is a radical risk for her but one that is possible and she'll be so much happier for it.)
It's true that learning to love the process isn't easy. Really accepting the ups and downs is a challenge. How do we embrace the failure? When we accept 'it', and the little wins, thelittle losses, or the big mistakes and big wins, we sink into the wholeness of the process. This expanse is the truth. Unleashing the attachment to be excessively productive (or any consuming emotion, for that matter) enables us to feel, accept and surrender to the rich and varied moments of existance.
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It hit me like a thud when someone said it to me. I was blindsided by it and it radically changed my perspective...for the better. I'm referring to the realization that the thoughts I had in my head were deeply affecting my life.
There is absolutely no way to know when our last day will be. Ultimately, we don't have control of this. Scary, for sure, especially when so much of our lives are predicated on various systems or controls -- laws, logic, etiquette.
As a parent, spouse, coach, daughter, friend, yogi, cook, housekeeper (sort of), and NYC city dweller, life is full and fast. I love doing things. I like action and revelry but I also love my quiet alone time.
A dear client of mine was having a hard time and couldn't find balance in her life. She was working a lot, late into the evenings on weekdays and most weekends. She was stressed out, over eating, missing her family...
Just 30 days ago, I began a challenge to write a blog post for 30 days straight. It knew it would help me reach more people and I love writing. But there were thoughts in my head that were negative; fleeting ideas that maybe I didn't know what to write about and concerns about what people might think.
This may be obvious to some but often times people forget the importance of maintaining the basics of self care. There are some fundamentals that need to be accounted for in one's life to make for overall well being and balance.
I've been thinking about 2016 and what I want to create in it. I have a process that works. It's a straightforward recipe that gets me in the groove of making what I want happen. If you follow it, it will work for you as well.
In October, I wrote a post about recognizing one's thoughts and making a effort to shift it towards joyful ideas when you recognize that your thoughts are 'somewhere else'.
Ack! Can you picture walking away from a conversation with a new group of people or familiar folks and feeling insecure about what you shared?