In October, I wrote a post about recognizing one's thoughts and making a effort to shift it towards joyful ideas when you recognize that your thoughts are 'somewhere else'. I wrote:
One of the ways I tell my clients to shift their 'upsets' -- the upsets that manifest as doubt, worry and self pity -- is to change the channel on their radio. I like to think that the thoughts in our head create our own personal radio. It's what you hear day in and day out, right? Instead of listening to the 'upset', 'doomsday', 'pity party' show, switch the 'channels' and tune into all the grand and small gifts in your life. Once you do it, bam(!), your mental and physical load lightens.
So how do you do this? Here are tips and reminders:
1. LIKE A SEAPORT
Our mind is like a busy seaport with people and boats departing and docking. These are the ideas, emotions and stories cruising around in our head. But unlike the seaport scene, you can make clear decisions what ideas have 'mileage'.
Recently, I went to Houston to visit family that I rarely see. Immediately I sensed that my long lost cousins and aunt were similar and familiar to me. They are warm and loving people and their personalities truly reflected mine. I recognized it as part of my bloodlines 'emotional culture' and proclivity. Knowing how you 'swing' and specifically what thoughts zip around in your noggin is important.
When you notice the thoughts, beliefs and ideas chirping in your mind, you will notice lots of contradictions. "My spouse is great, " and "That man doesn't do enough for me" may pop up within a few minutes on each other. Or professionally, maybe you hear yourself say, "I love my job," but also "Is my work really what I should be doing?". This is very funny, human and NORMAL.
4. GO SOLID GOLD
In the 1980's, I was a big fan of the Solid Gold television show with Dionne Warwick, aerobic style dancing, gold jumpsuits, etc. Anyway, pick the thoughts that are the solid gold ones and listen to them! Of course, they should be truthful but when it comes to the radio station you listen to day in and day out, choose the one that offers you pleasant and positive atmosphere, this is the solid gold.
If you would like more help following your own solid gold, please arrange a coaching consultation!
It hit me like a thud when someone said it to me. I was blindsided by it and it radically changed my perspective...for the better. I'm referring to the realization that the thoughts I had in my head were deeply affecting my life.
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As a parent, spouse, coach, daughter, friend, yogi, cook, housekeeper (sort of), and NYC city dweller, life is full and fast. I love doing things. I like action and revelry but I also love my quiet alone time.
A dear client of mine was having a hard time and couldn't find balance in her life. She was working a lot, late into the evenings on weekdays and most weekends. She was stressed out, over eating, missing her family...
Just 30 days ago, I began a challenge to write a blog post for 30 days straight. It knew it would help me reach more people and I love writing. But there were thoughts in my head that were negative; fleeting ideas that maybe I didn't know what to write about and concerns about what people might think.
This may be obvious to some but often times people forget the importance of maintaining the basics of self care. There are some fundamentals that need to be accounted for in one's life to make for overall well being and balance.
I've been thinking about 2016 and what I want to create in it. I have a process that works. It's a straightforward recipe that gets me in the groove of making what I want happen. If you follow it, it will work for you as well.
In October, I wrote a post about recognizing one's thoughts and making a effort to shift it towards joyful ideas when you recognize that your thoughts are 'somewhere else'.
Ack! Can you picture walking away from a conversation with a new group of people or familiar folks and feeling insecure about what you shared?