As a parent, spouse, coach, daughter, friend, yogi, cook, housekeeper (sort of), and NYC city dweller, life is full and fast. I love doing things. I like action and revelry but I also love my quiet alone time. The silence is awesome. This is when I settle in, it's my bridge to knowing what is right and true.
THE OLDEN DAYS
But I was a die hard extrovert mover and doer as a twenty something in NYC. I had a lucrative job so I could afford lots of the city's pleasures. And I had many friends nearby, none of us were parents or partnered. We zipped to art openings and danced our heads off at clubs and parties. It was loads of fun and adventure; I consumed as much external experiences and delights as humanly possible, I think. I was generally pretty darn happy although at times tragically tired. But so what, it didn't interfere with anything.
Then in the last fifteen years, all of us became grossly more connected with the Internet, cell phones, text messaging, social media and whatever else. And lots of my peeps had children and got married yet communicating was easy. So many of us have fight now to turn 'it' off and stop being connectivity addicts because the lure of the inbox or messages is strong and seductive, distracting and exhausting. My head zooms and jumps around like an Olympic leap frogger.
Now in my early forties, I have a different recipe of being. Sure, I'm up for a great night out sometimes and I'm very connected to my phone but now I feel joy in missing out (JOMO) on some stuff. I'd rather peaceout at home than run myself ragged. Being busy all the time doesn't feel right anymore instead I practice NOT being busy so that I can make quiet time to connect.
When I'm quiet, I tap into what I need and what is true for me. Sometimes I meditate and other times light a candle. In a bittersweet way, I speak with my dear deceased father and share with him what's up (he doesn't say much in reply). Sometimes I lay down and when I'm in the country I'll take a hike or jog. I do something alone and in quiet so that I can tune in.
In order to grow or change, we have to make room by letting go of something else.
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It hit me like a thud when someone said it to me. I was blindsided by it and it radically changed my perspective...for the better. I'm referring to the realization that the thoughts I had in my head were deeply affecting my life.
There is absolutely no way to know when our last day will be. Ultimately, we don't have control of this. Scary, for sure, especially when so much of our lives are predicated on various systems or controls -- laws, logic, etiquette.
As a parent, spouse, coach, daughter, friend, yogi, cook, housekeeper (sort of), and NYC city dweller, life is full and fast. I love doing things. I like action and revelry but I also love my quiet alone time.
A dear client of mine was having a hard time and couldn't find balance in her life. She was working a lot, late into the evenings on weekdays and most weekends. She was stressed out, over eating, missing her family...
Just 30 days ago, I began a challenge to write a blog post for 30 days straight. It knew it would help me reach more people and I love writing. But there were thoughts in my head that were negative; fleeting ideas that maybe I didn't know what to write about and concerns about what people might think.
This may be obvious to some but often times people forget the importance of maintaining the basics of self care. There are some fundamentals that need to be accounted for in one's life to make for overall well being and balance.
I've been thinking about 2016 and what I want to create in it. I have a process that works. It's a straightforward recipe that gets me in the groove of making what I want happen. If you follow it, it will work for you as well.
In October, I wrote a post about recognizing one's thoughts and making a effort to shift it towards joyful ideas when you recognize that your thoughts are 'somewhere else'.
Ack! Can you picture walking away from a conversation with a new group of people or familiar folks and feeling insecure about what you shared?