Prioritizing what deeply nourishes you is paramount to a rich life. These activities and relationships support your productivity, responsibility and appreciation for life. Joy breeds an energetic feeling of freedom and possibility. In that is a heightened experience of clarity and expansion and ease.
One of my dear clients came to exemplify this and transformed the state of her life. When we first met, she was goal-oriented, list making, get-it-done type of woman. Successful in task completion yet struggling in her marriage, often angry and disappointed at her spouse. Ultimately, she wanted to deepen her connection with her husband and experience more overall joy.
We focused on healing her relationship with her husband. She came to see how she had been concentration on what was 'wrong' with him and what he 'needed' to do to be better. Instead, we shifted her thinking towards appreciation for the man she truly loved and guided her to communicate with him from a fully wholehearted perspective. She made a practice of consistently expressing her love and truth to him. In this process, she sourced important insights about herself and, as a couple, they became significantly more intimate and connected.
We also worked on taming her propensity towards perfectionism and fear of missing out (which caused her to over schedule herself and family). She carved out more time to do activities for herself that increased her happiness. She exercised more and planned more time alone with each of her small children.
These seemingly simple adjustment were significantand created day-to-day pleasure for her. She did less on 'her list' and more of what deeply matter to her. Her routine of letting go of 'the shoulds' and her tendency to blame her spouse, morphed into a recognition of the bounty in her life. She lightened up and leaned into the marvels of her creation.
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It hit me like a thud when someone said it to me. I was blindsided by it and it radically changed my perspective...for the better. I'm referring to the realization that the thoughts I had in my head were deeply affecting my life.
There is absolutely no way to know when our last day will be. Ultimately, we don't have control of this. Scary, for sure, especially when so much of our lives are predicated on various systems or controls -- laws, logic, etiquette.
As a parent, spouse, coach, daughter, friend, yogi, cook, housekeeper (sort of), and NYC city dweller, life is full and fast. I love doing things. I like action and revelry but I also love my quiet alone time.
A dear client of mine was having a hard time and couldn't find balance in her life. She was working a lot, late into the evenings on weekdays and most weekends. She was stressed out, over eating, missing her family...
Just 30 days ago, I began a challenge to write a blog post for 30 days straight. It knew it would help me reach more people and I love writing. But there were thoughts in my head that were negative; fleeting ideas that maybe I didn't know what to write about and concerns about what people might think.
This may be obvious to some but often times people forget the importance of maintaining the basics of self care. There are some fundamentals that need to be accounted for in one's life to make for overall well being and balance.
I've been thinking about 2016 and what I want to create in it. I have a process that works. It's a straightforward recipe that gets me in the groove of making what I want happen. If you follow it, it will work for you as well.
In October, I wrote a post about recognizing one's thoughts and making a effort to shift it towards joyful ideas when you recognize that your thoughts are 'somewhere else'.
Ack! Can you picture walking away from a conversation with a new group of people or familiar folks and feeling insecure about what you shared?