Humans cheat themselves of their power. One significant way that we give away our power is when we slough off taking responsibility of our actions and reactions.
WE MAKE ALL THE CHOICES
We use a variety of expressions and emotions to distract ourselves from recognizing that we are pulling all the punches in our life. We make choices all the time, including how we act and react in situations. These actions and reactions define all of our experiences.
ANXIETY IS A DIVERSION
One form of relinquishing control and responsibility for ourselves is when we are anxious. Let me explain. Anxiety is a response to a fear. It's terribly uncomfortable, consuming and crippling. But ultimately it's a big ol' distraction from dealing with the underlying fear causing the anxiety. Without a doubt, anxiousness can be inherited from other people in our lives. But we still have a choice to 'use' it or not! Think about why anxiety is absolutely awful for us -- it causes great volatility, drama, and distress. When we are anxious, we aren't powerful, happy, grateful, joyful, appreciative, compassionate, loving, caring, creative, kind, etc. Needless to say, we don't make great choices when we are anxious.
TAKE BACK THE REIGNS
So learning to identify when you drop into anxiety is the first step to taking back your power. The next step is to become clear about the underlying fear driving the anxiety. Then go get help or devise a plan to deal with that fear. Remember, we have a choice to push aside anxiety, get help and find our power.
Taking responsibility of your thoughts and actions boils down to leading a very brave life.
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